October 2nd 2026

Mapping where the power lies

Mapping where the power lies

A significant element of growing up, the end of which is our death, is to become more agentic, knowing what we can and do control, and what we cannot.

Mapping who holds the power is a part of this.

When we do this, the first map might reveal that we have given our power to another, or an institution, or a belief, often without consent or permission, or even awareness.

Coercion, gaslighting, manipulation, spell casting and blackmail are all expressions of a power differential.

Grooming is a regularly deployed process. We are beginning to understand grooming by predators of young people.

But our media, our politicians and influencers all deploy some form of grooming. Some states have invested decades into grooming a global audience.

Mapping our power is a crucial first step in reclamation.

To be clear, I am not talking about dominating power. I am talking about our power of agency and choice, which can only be real when we have full awareness and knowledge symmetry.

Where, when and why do we give our power away?

To be liked? Accepted, Loved?

To be part of the in-group, to belong?

To be thought of as associated with another’s power and, as such, gain power?

Because an authority figure said so?

Because we never questioned the power?

Because we have made a mistake and are paying penance?

Knowing the terrain of power – who has it – is it legitimate – how real is the perceived power – why have I given my power to the other – why have I given my power to this story or belief – is an inquiry of growing up.

Worth doing regularly,

Published October 2nd 2026. Photo taken October 2nd 2026